A Journey from Boys & Men
This page has been set up for & men who wish to deepen their connection with community, to other men, to a woman/women and to the earth. An age old conundrum for men is around the theme of intimacy and connection. This page will help you understand the 4 major male Archetypes (King, Warrior, Magician & Lover) which may be over or underdeveloped and are in need of balance.
A. So begin by completing the 4 faces of Love Inventory. This will give you 4 % scores, the one highest will be your main archetype, but the question is whether it is over functioning due to over-compensating for other under-developed archetypes which may require attention.
King/Stabilizer
Warrior/Activator
Magician/Clarifier
Lover/Unifier
Becoming these archetypes requires you bring your whole self forward. So read below, and if you're already doing this list then feel free to not go any further with this work...
I clean up after myself. I clean up the planet. I am a role model for young men. I am rigorously honest and fiercely optimistic. I hold myself accountable. I know what I feel. I know how to cry and let it go. I know how to rage without hurting others. I know how to fear and how to keep moving. I seek self-mastery. I let go of childish shame. I feel guilty when I do something wrong. I am kind to men, kind to women, kind to children. I teach others how to be kind. I say sorry. I stop blaming women or my parents or men for my pain years ago. I stop letting my defences ruin my relationships. I do not let my penis run my life. I have enough self respect to tell the truth. I create intimacy and trust with actions. I have men that I trust and that I turn to for support. I know how to roll with it. I know how to make it happen. I am disciplined when I need to be. I am flexible when I need to be. I know how to listen from the core of my being. I'm not afraid to get dirty. I'm ready to confront my own limitations. I have high expectations for myself and for those I connect with. I look for ways to serve others. I know I am an individual. I know that we are all one. I know I am an animal and a part of nature. I know my spirit and my connection to something greater. I know future generations are watching my actions. I build communities where people are respected and valued. I take responsibility for myself. In times of need, I will be my brother’s keeper. I know my higher purpose. I love with fierceness. I laugh with abandon, because I get the joke.
I clean up after myself. I clean up the planet. I am a role model for young men. I am rigorously honest and fiercely optimistic. I hold myself accountable. I know what I feel. I know how to cry and let it go. I know how to rage without hurting others. I know how to fear and how to keep moving. I seek self-mastery. I let go of childish shame. I feel guilty when I do something wrong. I am kind to men, kind to women, kind to children. I teach others how to be kind. I say sorry. I stop blaming women or my parents or men for my pain years ago. I stop letting my defences ruin my relationships. I do not let my penis run my life. I have enough self respect to tell the truth. I create intimacy and trust with actions. I have men that I trust and that I turn to for support. I know how to roll with it. I know how to make it happen. I am disciplined when I need to be. I am flexible when I need to be. I know how to listen from the core of my being. I'm not afraid to get dirty. I'm ready to confront my own limitations. I have high expectations for myself and for those I connect with. I look for ways to serve others. I know I am an individual. I know that we are all one. I know I am an animal and a part of nature. I know my spirit and my connection to something greater. I know future generations are watching my actions. I build communities where people are respected and valued. I take responsibility for myself. In times of need, I will be my brother’s keeper. I know my higher purpose. I love with fierceness. I laugh with abandon, because I get the joke.
This system will help you identify your stuck boy. If this work isn’t done, then fathering patterns are repeated. Even without kids, men can be mentors as opposed to becoming the old fool. Click above to see the male life path.
Becoming a man requires we face certain life stage challenges. The link below will help you begin thinking in 4's, called tetrahension, to unravel the Gordian knot of temperament, and to consider your shadow side.
We men like to stretch our brains...
Becoming a man requires we face certain life stage challenges. The link below will help you begin thinking in 4's, called tetrahension, to unravel the Gordian knot of temperament, and to consider your shadow side.
We men like to stretch our brains...
The 4 faces of love % scores will give you an indication of your strong suit. You may have two or three stronger archetypes which is common. They will unconsciously attract each other. The 4 archetypes on their own are lost. Each archetype is attracted to another in the aim of culminating a 25% distribution within the psyche of the 4 lines of intelligence.
Lets use this 4 minute movie clip to illustrate some archetypes. In this scene we have a son exposed to a sadist father (over functioning Warrior)/tyrant father (over functioning King). The son has been a know it all trickster (over functioning Precocious child) as a needed defence and is now in therapy on the edge of balancing & integrating his Magician & Lover, whilst simultaneously stepping into the King & Warrior perspective via a male mentor (father replacement). This all comes together in one moment at the end of the movie (Good Will Hunting).
The Male Archetypes in their Fullness
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Boy PsychologyI want a mother
I take no responsibility for my actions I believe I am immortal I am the centre of the universe Power is for my benefit I want it all for me I seek acknowledgement |
Healthy Man PsychologyI want relationship with a woman
I take full responsibility for my actions I know I am mortal I am just part of the universe Power is for the good of all I share with my community I seek that which I believe in |
Try the Heroic Myth Index (HMI) (C.S.Pearson) to uncover other archetypes beyond the four major masculine archetypes.
